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Re: say my name, say my name

jeremyvaught — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:05:23 -0000

This isn't a story, so my apologies about that. This is just what I do because I'm bad with names as well, but like you say, they are powerful.

So to emphasize how bad I am about this, what I do without thinking about it, is I'll hear someone's name, and literally moments later want to use their name, and I can't for the life of me remember. I realized I was just not focusing on retaining that information. So now, I focus on retaining that information. When they say their name, I think, "ooooh, their name, remember that." And then I'll say it in my mind now and then while we talk. I try to use it out loud before they depart. And I always practice on my food servers, this keeps me in practice, and gets me better service. win/win!

Re: say my name, say my name

Jon Bohlinger — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 17:18:09 -0000

Watching Dr. Who.

The character of The Doctor has been written to ask characters for their names and then immediately follow up with a complement using their name.

Doctor: What's your name?
Stanley: I'm Stanley.
Doctor: You're brilliant Stanley. Absolutely fantastic.
Stanley: I will now throw my body in front of invading monsters to defend you and further your cause because you said that.

I realized this is a very powerful way to immediately build rapport because people already like themselves and think their suggestions are valuable. When I use it it also helps me because I build a connection between the individual and their actions. I'm still not great, but I'm getting better at remembering people I imagine to have made a difference.

Re: say my name, say my name

Dwight Knoll — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 16:02:09 -0000

My name actually makes me a little uncomfortable... mostly because I have a hard time remembering names and I feel guilty when someone remembers mine :D

When I have done well (which isn't often, think like 4 individual weeks sprinkled throughout my life, so take this with a grain of salt) it has been because I have intentionally said people's names in conversation. Even if I'm not certain what their name is. I just said what I think it is, and if I had no idea, I asked.